Pure Blood

It would make sense that I would be attracted to people who I have a lot in common with, wouldn’t it?  That, however, is not the case.  The people who I find to be the most alluring are those whose interests differ drastically from my own.  I’m not exactly sure why I gravitate towards people with unfamiliar interests, but I’m not about to say it’s because “opposite poles attract”.  I mean seriously, I think it’s kind of lame to use popular anecdotes to describe how I think.  Let’s dive a little deeper. 

If I had to take a guess, I would say that it has something to do with the fact that I like to challenge myself.  I thrive on change and enjoy being exposed to new things.  So then it starts to make sense that I would seek out individuals that have new things to offer me.  The unknown facets of a personality are what interest me most; they can offer a bounty of new knowledge so long as you have the curiosity to find out more. 

I’ve come to realize over the years that everyone is far more insightful than I could ever give them credit for.  I’ve been surprised time and time again at how profound the thoughts of others can be, regardless of how strong the mental connection I share with them is.  Because of this, when I meet someone who is very different from myself, it sparks my intrigue to unfathomable heights.

Another way I view the reasoning for my interest in dissimilar people is when I take my offspring into consideration.  Why would I want my progeny to grow up with only one perspective on life?  Essentially, if I have children with someone who is very much like myself, then they would grow up learning about all the ideals that their parents share (or in other words, just one point of view).  On the other hand, if I raise my children with someone who doesn’t share my same point of view, then my children will be exposed to two ways of thinking.  What this means is that they will have to think for themselves when considering how to view the world, as they won’t have just one perspective that they can recognize as true.  In my eyes, that is much more valuable.  While I’m not a parent and probably won’t be for quite some time, I imagine that this is how I would want to raise my kids.  I don’t want to be the type of parent that tells my children what is right and what is wrong.  I would rather give them the tools they need in order to make decisions on their own.

Again, this is all merely just speculation.  I don’t really have any way of knowing for sure why I like people who I don’t have a lot in common with.  At the end of the day, what I’m really looking for is companionship, which draws up a valid question:

Shouldn’t a companion be someone who I have a lot in common with?

It just seems like it would be easier to get along with someone who has a similar perspective on life.  I suppose that when I envision my ideal match, they would be someone who is open to other ways of thinking while retaining their individualistic thought.  I don’t think it’s that farfetched to find someone like that, do you?

So how about you?  Are you more attracted to people who you have a lot in common with?  Or people you don’t?

Stay classy.